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BAM was created for alternative lifestyles within communities of color. Black is our focus but BAM isn't exclusive to any community. Instead, our goal is to give create a platform around those who otherwise feel lost in ia larger crowd.
Our tools and articles are designed to help everyone find meaningful connections and love; however, we are supporter of all type of relationships including those that are just for lust or just for companionship.
We're not here to judge and prefer everyone to simply be honest about what they want. That's the best way to find real connections and escape the pitfalls of ghosting or being ghosted.
This is a site for adults but it is not an adult site. All sexually graphic content must be kept in private photos or else you're risking your account being blocked, banned, or deleted.
We want you to find what you want while being respectful to others who may not want to see your private photos. Some platforms focus on finding sexual partners and so you see a bunch of bodies and blurry faces.
The best way to be safe is to create a wall between our true public self and private life. Therefore, no one can or should be able to see that side of you unless you want them to.
BAM uses Stripe and Paypal for subscriptions. The FREE membership has basic social media functionality.
VIP features a very low monthly subscription but gives you unlimited messaging, advanced search, groups, access to party invites, and more information about potential connections, including personality, kinks, and more.
BAM Pro is for more professional users who want to promote services, events & parties, create their own groups, etc. It costs more because they are the only ones allowed to make money from our community. The higher price helps cover the cost of human monitoring and security.
BAM For Life is for those VIPs who hate monthy payments and plan to stick around for awhile. Sit back and enjoy yourself and come back ad often as you'd like.
BAM provides everyone the ability to explore our community. However VIP members get special treatment, better search tools, access to more groups, etc.
We feel like matching is best left up to you, not a computer. However, we are working on a dating system that can provide members with additional insights while actually helping bad dates to improve.
In the real world, everything from products to restaurants are reviewed. That's gives other people confidence that they might like something too. We're working on systems to gently help people save time by helping to address incompatibilities.
Safety and Security are two things we take very seriously. You can report members who you believe to be violating our policies.
Every alternative lifestyle isn't about sexuality. However, in order to be inclusive to alternative lifestyles this will more open the door to lifestyles that are focused around sexual relationships.
We will try our best to police bad actors as much as possible with human monitoring; especially as it relates to human trafficking. If you have any suspicions please inform us so we can investigate and take any necessary action.
That being said, we cannot police situations that occur outside of our premises even if it involves one of our members. Therefore, if a member wants you to email them or contact them on some other platform, it could be a scam.
We will create a whole safety guide of things you should absolutely avoid as well as yellow and red flags.
